I want to believe the love season is still on, hence this post. For some of you, this could be your most vulnerable period of the year. Your
relationship probably ended a few months ago.
You were and still are (even if you won't admit it to yourself) so in love and so deep into that person it seems impossible to get him/her out of your head. You need a distraction -
something, someone.......there's this guy or chic who's been on your case forever or maybe you just met the person. They seem nice, you
seem to have enough in common to hold a lengthy conversation......but you just can't get your ex out of your head. Then you decide to
experiment with your new friend.
The person has is entering the relationship with all their heart and the belief /expectation
that you are doing the same. But you waltz into the relationship with the hope that you can use that person as a distraction so you can forget about your ex and all the heartache he/
she caused you.
A number of things could happen:
1. Your plan works and you end up falling helplessly in love with your rebound lover and life returns to bliss.
2. You realize you are not in love with the person-it's not their fault but yours and that of your silly ex who your heart just can't let go of. Now you want to get out of the relationship but you don't want to break the person's heart the way your ex did yours..... aarrrggghhhh
3. Your plan fails and after a short while, you start to find your rebound lover repulsive. The thought of the person holding or touching you
makes your skin crawl. So you end up treating them badly (maybe even worse than your ex treated you).
4. Your ex comes crawling back, begging and pleading. You find yourself torn between your ex and your rebound lover who you were never really that into in the first place.....What to do???
On another hand, that person could be someone who under normal circumstances you would't even give a second glance but the void
in your heart has caused you to become vulnerable and you are now willing to settle for less than you want and less than you deserve.
Be careful, you could end up hurting yourself even deeper than your ex hurt you and you could also hurt the other person too except
the other party is equally looking for a rebound romance in which case you guys become FWB's (Friends With Benefits) .
Don't be in a hurry to get into a relationship, take some time off. Spend sometime with yourself, find happiness from within. There's
absolutely nothing wrong with being alone for sometime- being alone won't last forever. Who can relate to any of these scenarios - either by personal experience or that of a friend? Care to share your story?
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