8 Signs Your Friends Are Making Moves To Destroy Your Relationship With Your Lover

You’re bff’s could be indirectly ruining your relationship with some subtle actions that you may not notice. Though this goes two ways, sometimes we could be blind and love the wrong person and they might just want to be good friends and save us and also sometimes, well, they just want to pour sand in your garri.

1. THEY THINK YOUR DATE ISN’T GOOD ENOUGH: Ever been here? You date someone you really like but your friends think your date’s obnoxious or ugly? At times like these, you may start wondering yourself if you’ve made the wrong choice. And once you start thinking, it’s easy to mentally turn even a perfect partner into an ugly hag.

2. THEY TALK ABOUT YOUR EX’S WHEN THE NEW DATE IS AROUND: Past relationships are always sensitive. When you and your date are hanging out with your friends, do your friends constantly talk about your exes or about the way you used to behave around an ex just to have a laugh?

3. THEY ENCOURAGE YOU TO CHEAT: Your friend may love one night stands, but they really shouldn’t be trying to convince you to do the same when you’re in a relationship. It’s easy to be manipulated by friends you trust, but sometimes you need to space yourself from these kinds of friends who don’t want your romantic relationships to evolve into something better.

4. THEY DISRESPECT YOUR LOVER: Do you feel like your friends ignore your new lover or treat them disrespectfully while hanging out together? If you feel it, chances are, it’s true. When your friends disrespect your date, it reflects badly on you as a lover.

5. AND THEY DISRESPECT YOU WHEN YOUR LOVER IS THERE: Do your friends treat you disrespectfully when you’re with your date? Your friends should help you impress your date and win a lover over, not make you look bad. If your friends put you down in front of your lover, they’re probably jealous or annoyed.

6. THEY EVEN FLIRT WITH YOUR LOVER: There are bad friends and then there are worse. Friends who flirt with your new date behind your back are the worst kind. If your friend tries to put you down, or calls up your lover and speaks for hours when you’re not around, there’s a good chance that your friend is looking for ways to break both of you up and enter the picture.

*, 7. THEY FLIRT WITH YOU WHEN YOUR PARTNER IS THERE:** This is something you’ll have to deal with immediately. Do any of your friends of the opposite s*x like you or try to flirt with you in front of your new date? It doesn’t matter if your flirty friend hits on you on facebook or on the streets, it’s still going to make your new lover feel awkward and insecure.

8. AND THEY FLIRT WITH YOUR LOVER: There are bad friends and then there are worse. Friends who flirt with your new date behind your back are the worst kind. If your friend tries to put you down, or calls up your lover and speaks for hours when you’re not around, there’s a good chance that your friend is looking for ways to break both of you up and enter the picture.

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7 ways of knowing men who are sex starved in public

Now do not act shocked at this headline; there are some really shameless men in the society who have little or no control over themselves. You will spot them with a hard on or see their expressions when a lady passes in front of them.

These men show they are sex starved with the unruly behavior they exhibit when the opposite sex are in view. Most times, they are the people who end up raping children and ladies in the society and then blame their actions on the devil.

We would share with you some of the tips you could use in spotting men like these in the public. Once they see women, they would lose control and start to misbehave; if you ask them for their names then, it is most likely to be boobs.

Here are some of the things you should watch out for in order to spot sex starved men in the society:

1. They rub their erection on women while on queue





Now this is a very disgusting thing to do; men who are sex starved look for an opportunity to strike and then they act on it. They would be the most aggressive on a queue and act like they do not want other people to jump into the line, during this period, they would press their erection unto the ladies in front of them.


2. They whistle when they see ladies



Men who are sex starved cannot hold themselves or refrain from doing something nasty when they see women who are endowed. They either whistle like an animal or end up shouting and embarrassing the ladies.

There is nothing wrong in admiring someone, these men however do theirs in the most uncultured and uncivilized manner.

3. They run after ladies with big boobs and hips



For you to be able to spot the sex starved men we have in the society, you would observe the erratic behavior they would put up when they see endowed ladies. They would leave all they are doing and go after the ladies. Men like these can park their cars and follow a lady into a crevice as far as she is endowed.

4. They grope a lot


For you to know whether a man is sex starved or not, you can watch out for the way he behaves with other women in
public. He is either looking for an opportunity to touch a woman or rub a part of her body.

They have a problem keeping their hands to themselves and would want to touch the ladies irrespective of the fact that they are in the public.

5. They develop a hard on
Some men are simply shameless; they cannot control their third leg when a beautiful woman sits in front of them. Some of the men hide their embarrassment by dipping their hands into their pockets to hide the bulge. They lust after everything in skirts and end up staining their trousers.

6. They love to sit at the back on ‘okadas’



Sex starved men have a dirty habit of trapping ladies between them while on bike. The one sitting behind would poke the lady with his erection if he is sex starved while the rider would enjoy the comfort of the lady’s boobs.

Men love riding with ladies on bikes so they could touch and feel their bodies. Some deliberately run into potholes and use the opportunity to touch ladies the more.

7. They stare lustfully at women


Some sex starved men would stare at women in such a way that the women feel like they are being stripped of their clothes already. They look at women so hard the women know they are probably making love to them in their minds already. The desire is written all over them and they do not know how to hide it.

Annoyingly, some sex starved men would press their knees to your butts in the bus and pretend as if the space is tight. Do not give in to this, it is a scope they use now in touching women publicly.

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“Who Stole My Wedding Gown” – Read Pastor Tony Rapu’s Interesting Article

We read Pastor Tony Rapu of This Present House‘s article in ThisDay Style this weekend. We found it on his official blog and we just had to share.


Pictures of billboards and fliers of church events with titles like “This Beautiful Sister Must Marry” or “Lord, Give Me A Wife Or I Die” have often gone viral on the Internet and generated a good laugh. “Who Stole My Wedding Gown?” was a particularly humorous one. Whether these events actually took place or what the content of those programs were is anyone’s guess. Once upon a time, churches would establish youth events to address the needs of younger members and create avenues through which their energies could be expressed. Initially, these fellowships provided a forum where basic Christian principles of life, marriage and courtship were taught. They grew out of a legitimate need to address the complex issues of relationship, marriage and family. Strangely, over the years, many of these meetings mutated to the point where they began to run as clinics to deliver their members from “the curse of singlehood” and obsess over marriage. It was marriage at any cost. Preparing people for marriage is a great thing, but an overemphasis on marriage as the sole objective of every single person is questionable and ultimately detrimental. This approach is not consistent with the biblical understanding of singlehood, or even marriage for that matter.

The idea that single adults are somehow incomplete or less whole than their married peers is false and has no basis in Christian thought. That unmarried persons have to attend night program to be ‘restored’ or delivered from enemy attacks is preposterous. Jesus Christ the founder of Christianity was a single man; Paul the Apostle, Christianity’s greatest proponent was also single. Paul’s assessment was that both singlehood and married life were good conditions to be in. He said being single was actually better in some circumstances than being married. In any case, whether single or married, only Christ can satisfy the longing in the soul for higher purpose and meaning.

We must beware the idolatry of marriage, which is the perception of marriage as the pinnacle of the Christian life and the answer to all of life’s problems. Not only does the propagation of this dangerous myth devalue singlehood, it also creates a false impression of marriage as a state of eternal fairytale bliss. Having spent their single years waiting for marriage, many then enter in entertaining delusions of ease, hoping to live with Prince or Princess Charming happily ever after. They are completely unprepared and ill equipped for the rude shock that the journey of marriage represents.

The best marriage on earth cannot fill the God-shaped vacuum in the human heart; only Christ can do that. We must therefore keep our priorities in perspective, seeking wholeness and completion first in a relationship with the Creator before building relationships with others.

We were not created for marriage; marriage was created for us. It was designed to enhance our purpose with God on earth, purpose that exists whether we are married or single.

Singleness is not a limitation or a negative thing. Marriage is good but singles should enjoy life and live it to the fullest on their way to the altar instead of bemoaning their single years.

Young people who spend their youthful days mourning over being single end up living below their potential. In fact, they unwittingly undermine the high purpose of their existence. Rather than put their lives in a state of suspended animation ‘believing God’ for this suppose ‘ultimate goal’ in life, single people should spend their time pursuing their divine purpose. This is the time to live with a sense of mission. A time to be equipped with spiritual strength. A time to acquire skills, hone gifts and discover purpose. This is the time to prepare young people to charge into various sectors of society and unleash change. We should be priming the vocational an

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Nkem Ndem: Your Boyfriend Is NOT Your Husband

I am a huge Game of Thrones (GoT) fan, and after seeing “An hour of Ice and Fire” – last week’s episode where Khaleesi dealt with the sex-crazed and potty-mouthed khans by setting the Dothraki hut ablaze, I was filled with so much excitement that I decided to call a friend, Tiwa** to share my speculations for the next episode. As Tiwa picked up the phone and we started talking, I noticed that her responses were curt and her tone flat. I had to end all the GoT talk and ask her what was wrong. She surprisingly broke into tears and started to narrate the story of how her boyfriend had embarrassed her earlier in the day, in front of their friend.

According to Tiwa, she had gone to over to his place early in the morning to drop off the packs of food she had made for him to put in his freezer. Although she had called him before setting out and still called his phone when she got to his apartment, he had left her standing at the entrance knocking for almost 10 minutes before opening the door. It wasn’t all. After she put the bowls of food in the freezer, she headed to his room to give him a kiss before leaving as any loving girlfriend would do. On getting to his room, however, one of his friends (also a friend of hers) who had spent the weekend with him and was in the room with him, mentioned to the boyfriend that he needed to give Tiwa a key to the apartment. Before she could say a word in protest, her boyfriend of 3 solid years had already replied : “For what now? When she is not my wife?”

Of course, I couldn’t do much but just listen and sympathize with her. She had not asked for my advice and actually, I could see that she was finally at the place where she could see that her boyfriend was not in love with her. He was only stringing her along until the marriage benefits she was giving him runs out… or until he finds the benefits elsewhere.

Tiwa met him at the point in her life when she was going through the “i-want-to-get-married” phase and was a little desperate. In the bid to show him that she wife material and secure him for marriage, she started to give him the benefits of marriage: round-the-clock sex, home-cooked meals, cleaning his house, etc. Of course, we (Tiwa and I) had had fights over it all; I constantly told her that playing wife was not only inappropriate, it would take away the incentive for him to take the next step and marry her, but she wouldn’t listen.

Think about it, why marry the woman when you can get the wife for free?

In my opinion, there is a very big difference between a boyfriend and a husband – many of which circle around devotion, commitment, and understanding. The two are not interchangeable at all. If they were the same, what would be there to look forward to in marriage?

Do not get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with loving your boyfriend and giving him a measure of devoutness. Actually, the caring-for-him part is what makes the relationship fun for the woman as caregiving comes naturally to her. The problem comes when you give him all the benefits of having a wife with none of the commitment.

In fact, the root of some many problems in dating stem from the fact that most girls go above and beyond the call of duty of a girlfriend. Doing for your boyfriends, what a wife does for her husband, is not okay. If a man wants all of you and wants you to do more than a girlfriend does for her boyfriend, then he needs to put a ring on it. Until there is a ring on your finger, you should never treat him as though he is your husband.

Treating a man as though he is already a husband, with the intent of getting him to marry you, often backfires. Usually, he instead takes you for granted or walks all over you. Like…even if you go to his mother and learn how to make their village meals or you decide to not just indulge all his sexual desires but also hang your ovaries on his wall so he will know you can do anything for him, you will be disappointed to learn how easily and quickly he can leave the relati

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10 Proven Ways To Improve Your Relationship - By Tina Pearl

Do you feel like your relationship isn’t quite what it used to be? To help you revive your relationship, we’ve reviewed a serious body of research to bring you the 10 most powerful, scientifically proven ways to improve virtually any relationship. These tips also happen to be the key ingredients that go into making a good relationship work, so even if you think everything’s great, you can use this list as a diagnostic tool to make sure you and your partner are on the road to relationship bliss.


1. Accept the unsolvable

Unfortunately, according to relationship scientist John Gottman, 69% of relationship conflicts are persistent problems, meaning they revolve around issues that tend to resurface no matter how long you’ve been together. If you find a problem seems to call up painful emotions, you’re looking at one that’s persistent.

To stop this trouble from ruining your relationship, you’ll need to address the bigger issues underlying your difficulty. Take turns discussing with your partner what this loaded issue really means to you. When your partner is talking, your job is to listen, be nonjudgmental and to find something in her perspective that makes sense to you. When it’s your turn to talk, she should be doing the same thing. By treading more gently into touchy areas, you should at least be able to agree to disagree or make some small concessions for one another.

2. Focus on what's fixable

As long as an argument doesn’t leave you feeling like you’ve been through an emotional roller coaster, consider it fixable. One major area that causes tension in relationships is finances, with a longitudinal study by economist Jay Zagorsky finding that 33% of couples have seriously divergent views on income, wealth and debts. In particular, the initial stages of living together may be especially fraught with monetary concerns. So that this problem doesn’t spiral out of control, sit down with your other half and craft a detailed action plan, consulting any resources that might help to get your finances on track. You should both be able to live with the new arrangement or it won’t work. Use this method to address any other problems in your life that you deem fixable.

3. Break negative cycles

Troubled relationships tend to follow a demand-withdraw pattern. That means that one person tends to be more critical and demanding, while the other tends to withdraw or shut down in response too conflict. Douglas Tilley, a proponent of emotion-focused therapy, notes that 85% of the time men tend to be the withdrawer. The reason may be biological -- men’s cardiovascular systems are more responsive to stress, so tuning out your mate is an attempt to avoid uncomfortable sensations. To break the negative pattern of conflict in your relationship, next time things get heated, let your partner know what’s going on with you by saying: “I can see this issue is important to you. I’m feeling too angry to discuss it right now, though, so let’s come back to it once we’ve cooled off.”


4. Understand anger

While outbursts of anger are common even in healthy relationships, when anger becomes an entrenched part of your couple life, you should be concerned. Sue Johnson, master therapist and pioneer of emotion-focused therapy, an empirically validated treatment for distressed relationships, refers to anger as a secondary emotion. Her theory holds that other (primary) emotions, such as sadness or a fear of being abandoned, can be found behind an angry front.

Think back to the last argument you had with your partner and use this new knowledge to look for hidden messages in what you and your partner were each trying to communicate. Attempting to disregard the angry tone you both used and trying to tune in to what you were each really trying to say will help you to see that you both have needs in your relationship that make sense. For instance, “You’re a workaholic!” might really mean “I miss you and want to spend more time with you.”

5. Find common goals

A study conducted in collaboration with a dating site in the UK found that 13% of couples reported no longer having the same goals. This situation represents a ticking time bomb, as research has shown that couples who share dreams and goals have longer-lasting, more satisfying relationships. If you feel like you’ve been out of sync lately with your partner on this front, discuss your philosophy of life together. The aim is for both of you to share what you want your life to be about, where you want to end up and what these things mean to you. Look for anything that’s common between the two of you and talk about ways to work toward that aspiration together.

6. Share power

When a man is not willing to share power with his relationship partner, John Gottman’s research indicates there is an 81% chance that his relationship will self-destruct. While hoarding power may have got you ahead in your career, this strategy will backfire in your relationship because your girlfriend will end up feeling like her opinions aren’t valuable and she doesn’t matter to you. To help save your relationship, develop a more accepting attitude toward compromise. Practice by giving in on issues you don’t feel extremely invested in.

7. Don't distort

Researchers have known for a long time that unhappy couples focus on the negatives in their relationships. An early study by Robinson and Price (1980) found that unhappy couples underestimated the occurrence of pleasurable events in their relationships by 50%. Also, Fincham, Beach and Baucom (1987) found that individuals in distressed relationships were prone to attributing negative intentions to their partner’s behavior.

If you find yourself stuck in this rut of distorted thinking, the next time you have a negative thought about something your partner has done try to come up with a more neutral explanation for her actions. Another strategy is to consider whether you would judge yourself so harshly if the situation were reversed. Finally, remind yourself often of the good times you’ve spent together recently.

8. Concentrate on the present to ensure your future

Interestingly, the ability of your relationship to weather tough times has a lot to do with your mutual availability in the here and now. Unfortunately, over time, for a variety of reasons, many couples move further apart from each other, meaning that when a rough patch hits, their relationship doesn’t survive. To build a rock-solid relationship, start by acknowledging rather than ignoring the ordinary moments in your relationship. If your partner wants to share something she’s reading on the net, for example, take a minute to listen, even if you simply grunt in response. It may sound strange, but if you accumulate enough of the little things, when you really need your partner, you’ll find she’s there for you.

9. Appreciate each other

Remember when you first started dating, how you used to go that extra mile to impress her? Well, one of the secrets to a long, fulfilling relationship is to continue to actively appreciate your partner. You don’t necessarily have to pull out all the stops the way you did back in the day, but regular efforts to show your partner that you appreciate her will do wonders for improving your relationship.

If you’re not sure where to start, a good place is by doling out daily compliments. Tell her she looks hot or thank her for organizational abilities when she reminds you to call your mother. The only rule is to make sure that you genuinely mean what you say.

10. Solidify your friendship

How satisfied you feel in your relationship has to do with how connected you feel to your partner. Research suggests that our ability to connect with others (our attachment style) is influenced by our childhood experiences. According to Prior and Glasser (2006), 65% of children can be classified as having a secure attachment style, with the remaining 35% having an insecure attachment style.

As an adult, an insecure attachment style is associated with a slew of relationship troubles, including jealousy, obsession, and emotional highs and lows. The good news is that, regardless of your present pattern, you can become more securely attached, or connected, to your partner by developing a deeper friendship. To do that, incrementally spend more time with her doing something you both enjoy. Also, regularly ask for updates on your partner’s likes, dislikes, current stress, and new interests, as people change over time.

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10 Ways To Spot Chronic Female Flirts On Social Media

I don't like the fact that our the society always makes it seem like it's only the male folks that flirt online, but I can tell you that the female folks are not exempted from this.

It takes the grace of God if a lady exhibits any of the mentioned points on social media, and she's not a chronic flirt


Without wasting time, lemme keep the ball rolling 8)

10 Ways To Spot Chronic Female Flirts On Social Media

1. They Take Selfie Everywhere

The issue of frequent changing of profile pictures has been causing controversies since the days of Olusegun Agagu. However, chronic female flirts on social media will always take selfie in every environment they find themselves. This is to show how sophisticated they are. E.g, Shoprite, Mr Biggs, Wedding reception, HOD office, Club House, Sweet Sensation, etc :D (just name it)


2. They Always Try To Draw Attention

They put status updates that will draw massive traffic to them even more than Vanguard front page :D . You will see updates like, ''I'm bored, anyone wanna hangout with me?''; ''Wow! I feel like clubbing tonight. Care to join?''; "I'm hungry, who cares to take me out?"; I need money like kilode, who cares to help?; I need a man in my life. Smh


3. They Use Erotic Names as Monikers

This may sound funny, but it's the pure fact. A lady with a good upbringing barely uses erotic names as a moniker. But as for the chronic female flirts, they will always add erotic and fascinating prefixes and suffixes when choosing a moniker. You all know these prefixes and suffixes, so I wouldn't like to mention them :D

4. They Upload Almost Unclad Pictures

They are not hard to spot cos their pictures exemplify what they do offline. However, they usually upload sultry pictures of cleavages, bumbum, waist chain, anklets and it goes straight to their profile page. Their headquater na facebook, badoo, while other sites follow suite :D

5. They Reveal Personal Info On Social Media

Some things are rather kept hidden from public views. One of the characteristics of chronic female flirts on social media is that, you will sometimes find their phone numbers and BBM PINs added to their profile page. This is not for business purposes, but to flirt with "chairmen" that will ring them up :D

6. They Belittle Broke and Hustling Dudes

They are so much obsessed with money and will always give 500 reasons as to why they cannot date broke and hustling dudes. Ladies who often utter this statement on social media are very LAZY and are mostly likely to be flirts; because they won't hesitate to go down with every Tom, Dick and Harry, so far money is involved. They see no future in a dude that's still going through trying times

7. They Always Have Solid Points To Justify Cheating

By their comments you can also spot them, especially when a lady is being castigated for cheating. They will flare up and will be defensive, saying that, a lady is not expected to put all her eggs in one basket, hence, double-dating is plan B. They call double-dating a plan B ? Smh

8. They Tag People Unnecessarily.

Some of them constantly tag thousands of people on social media directing them to their new dp to see how sexy their hair, lips, and body look like. What's the need of reminding people of how sexy your eyes/lips are? Na to get customers, of course. I know many of them oh! But I no go mention names.

9. They Always Claim They are Smarter Than Guys

These people always claim that they are very smart and know all the tactics guys normally use to coerce ladies into using and dumping them. They are always on social media, advising and counselling other people, even till odd hours at night... This is just to increase their online commercial worth, and attract various species of 'chairmen'

10 Feel free to add the last one

I drop my pen at this point 8)


Original writer: Tosyne2much

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WARNING:- 10 Types Of Women You Should Never Marry

While we can all agree that nobody is perfect, there are actually a few things that would adversely affect a relationship if a man chooses to partner with a woman with some not-so-great attributes.

Madeinksu.com presents you with the 10 kinds of woman a man should think twice about making a wife.

1. The Bitter Woman: You know that woman that always seems to be angry at the menfolk all the time? Perhaps she has had her heart broken one too many times, but this woman is always bashing on men and talking about how they are no-good or useless. A man might not want to settle down with someone so bitter as it is guaranteed that when the opportunity arises, she would hurl hurtful insults and intense, hateful words his way due to all her unresolved anger.

2. The Selfish Woman: If you want a happy home and a partner that wants your happiness as well as hers, then you should steer clear of the selfish woman. A woman who is determined to make sure she always comes first would not be able to build a cheerful and loving home with you.

3. The Materialistic Woman: A woman obsessed with material things would certainly not make the best wife. If all she cares about are material possession over family, faith and spiritual fulfillment, then she will not make the best partner.

4. The Flirty Woman: Are you attracted to that woman that always seems to flirt with one person or another? She flirts like a butterfly from one man to another and makes all men feel like she is interested in them. Well, beware, because a habit like that might be hard to break after marriage and you would not want to start hearing that your wife has had flirty conversations with all the men in the neighbourhood.

5. The Party Freak: She is invited to every party and attends them all. She is always dressed in the most flashy clothes and is the ultimate party girl. She lives for the next big gathering and cannot say no to an invitation. Such woman might not be the type to settle down in a marriage.

6. The Spoilt-Brat: A woman who grew up having everything handed to her and has never had the experience of actually working for something is unlikely to make the best wife. No matter how much you might be willing to provide her with the kind of lifestyle she grew up with, remember, marriage comes with kids and kids require sacrifice. If she has never had to work or make sacrifices for anything in her life, it is unlikely that she would start now.

7. The Attention Seeker: While some women naturally like attention, when it becomes an obsession, then it is not a good idea. A good husband makes sure he has time for his wife, but this cannot happen 100percent of the time so a good wife should understand that.

8. The Gossip: Does she always seem to never mind her own business? Is she always focused on what someone else is doing or how someone else is living their life? Then you do not need this kind of woman as a wife. A man needs someone that would build a home with him and this requires some focus on her own plans and her own life. If she is too busy minding someone else’s business, then you are fighting a losing battle.

9. The Commitment-Phobe: A woman who finds it difficult to commit to anything (school, jobs, family, friendship, etc) would also not be able to commit to a marriage. If she seems to lose interest in everything quickly and is always looking for the next thing to jump into, then you would have a hard time keeping her focused in her marriage.

10. The Disrespectful Woman: If she seems to always be disrespectful and rude (even if it is to people she considers beneath her standards) then you need to think twice about marrying her. Respect for a fellow human being is a very important attribute in who we choose to spend the rest of our lives with so it is definitely not something that should be taken lightly.

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Relationship advice - 5 forbidden types of love you are likely to have in your lifetime

It's not about loose morals or a weak mind, it's just that you may have been on the single market for too long and have a tendency of going into these types of taboo relationships.

Julia Austin of Madame Noire lists these kinds of forbidden love singles are likely to engage in:

Step something: It could be as close as a stepsibling, or a cousin by marriage, or an awkwardly young step-uncle. But, sharing so many similar experiences as pseudo-family does, you can’t help but feel a special bond with a certain attractive non-blood relative at some point.

A neighbour: Simply being exposed to someone repeatedly can play a trick on your mind, making you feel attracted to that person. And the fact that your neighbor is just down the hall or street, so accessible when you’re feeling, um, playful, can make this type of taboo love become hot and heavy fast. But your feelings can be confusing: is it proximity or compatibility that’s keeping things together?

A religiously committed person: Either his family would disown him should he marry a woman outside their religion, or keeping up the religious tradition via marriage/the bloodstream is genuinely important to him—more important than being with “the one.” Either way, you’ll engage in a hot fling with a guy who things really can’t go anywhere serious with due to his religious background.

Lawyer/Client: A lawyer is almost like a therapist—out of necessity, you tell him every last detail of your life. You’ll instantly feel bonded to him for this reason, and, should he like the details of your life, he may develop feelings for you. Get a new lawyer, and get it on.

The renowned jerk: Everyone knows he is a player/doesn’t respect women/thinks he is God’s gift to the earth etc. Nobody likes him. But you—well, you yearn for him. And there’s something hot about dating the bad boy

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3 major reasons why you stay depressed for a long time

Millions suffer everyday from depression which isn't caused by any external factor but lack of personal growth.

It is a very tough thing to overcome and most times require the help of a therapist or medication.

But to snap out of that depression there are some things you need to do for yourself to be better.

Krystal Crossman of Healthy Black Woman lists three major reasons why people suffer from depression:

1. Putting off exercise: When you are feeling down obviously the last thing that you probably want to do is get out there and go for a jog. But it is the thing that you should be doing to help your mood. Not only are you maintaining your health by continuing to exercise but you are releasing endorphins which can lift your mood significantly. If you sit around all day and do nothing you will feel worse day by day. You don’t have to do anything strenuous, even just a short walk will do. But you need to get up and move every day.

2. Negativity: When you are at a low point you may sit and think to yourself that you are never going to get out of this depression so why even bother trying. Negative thoughts like this will only make you feel hopeless and even more depressed. Think about turning phrases such as: “I’m struggling and can’t do anything about it” into “I’m struggling but I know this isn’t who I am.” The more you stay away from negative thoughts the easier it will be for you to help your mood.

3. Love: If you push away anyone who cares about you while you are depressed you are going to have a tough time getting better. People who love and care about you should always be around to help you to get through tough times. You need support in your life. Having someone that cares about you when you hit a low point is one of the most valuable things that you can have because they will help lift you up and help you to see that you are worth much more than you may think you are.

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Finding Love Dating tips for mature singles

Sex and the City's iconic star, Sarah Jessica Parker turned 50 recently, and although the series has been wrapped up over a decade ago, it is still very much a part of our popular imagination.

It showed the way people in their 30s, 40s and 50s how to date, have more (and better) sex and also find love. However, the show was ultimately fantasy, having a fun and active dating life as a mature single isn't out fo reach.

In honour of Parker and all of you out there who are single and still looking for love, here are some dating tips from love experts as written by Simone Piget:

Make finding love a priority: According to midlife dating coach, speaker and author April Braswell, if you want to find love, you need to make it a priority. "Of course, don't neglect your career and family, but really your kids would probably really appreciate it if you dated...when it’s your custody weekend, hire a babysitter and attend that singles mixer for three hours. It’s ok for you to be out for a few hours," says Braswell. "Your kids need to see your example for how to treat dating and finding your life’s mate," she says.

Make sure you’re ready to date: One of Canada's leading matchmakers, Jane Carsten, who is based in Vancouver, it’s all about taking baby steps. "The biggest mistake people make is they jump back into dating when they haven’t got their stuff in order." In other words, just because you can date, doesn’t mean you should. The Midlife Dating Coach, Ronnie Joy, is a life coach who helps midlife singles find love. As she explains, it’s important that you let go of past frustrations and failures so you can feel good about who you are now. "If necessary, work on your emotions with a professional until you are truly ready to open up to a new relationship," she says.

Feel good about yourself: You don’t have to take a page from Parker’s fictional alter ego, Carrie Bradshaw, and squander your savings on $700 shoes, however looking your best often equates with feeling your best. As Joy explains, "If you’re not happy with how you look, make some changes. Update your hairstyle or buy new clothes that are flattering and make you feel confident."

Don't be afraid to mix it up: Although online dating is great, Joy is of the opinion that you shouldn’t be afraid to connect with other singles 'in the wild.' Braswell seconds this, and encourages singles to get out there and enjoy life. "Vary the activities, events, sites and hosts of the items you schedule into your weekly agenda. While midlife couples met through one particular venue or activity, it’s because they were engaged in multiple endeavors that they found each other and were ready for love."

Dump the old rules: As Carsten points out, if you’re back on the dating scene after a long break, you need to open yourself to completely new possibilities. "To score at true love, you’ve got to have a different action plan," says Carsten. Some of the best advice she has for singles: "Take baby steps. Trust your intuition and your heart. Give love a chance."

Stay positive and leave the past where it belongs - the past: As Joy points out, when it comes to creating an online dating profile, it’s important that you stay present. Use current photos and check negativity at the door. "Never reference your horrendous divorce or disappointments with first dates. Focus on your current interests, passions and uniqueness," says Joy.

Meet new people daily: As Braswell points out, most professionals over 40 are at the busiest time of their careers. However it’s important you make time to meet new people, even if it’s just 15 minutes per day. "Get your morning coffee break beverage at the local coffee bar. Practice breaking the ice and flirting comfortably so they become part of your normal daily behaviour. Then when you meet someone who curls your toes, you’re ready!" says Braswell.

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#Ladies Only: Five Signs He Has A Crush On You

Everyone knows that the male specie is unpredictable given the fact that we are wired to act on the spur of the moment. This is however not new to the female folk as they have seemingly come to understand some of the complexities that surrounds being a man. However, it can be quite difficult for a lady to determine if a man is crushing on them given the kind of conservative culture in our clime of the world which frowns at the female folk coming out to explicitly ask a man out.
However, despite this fact, every lady should know that there are signs that a man would give off to show that he likes you and wants much more than friendship. Whether he is a shy or jovial dude, the signs of crushing are evidently universal and knowing these signs would go a long way in overcoming the fear of urging him on or rejection if you decide to go all out. There are signs (which may be subtle or not) which would tell you he likes you and wants a little more than friendship. These signs are highlighted below

He pays attention
Paying attention to things we hold dear is universally true and men are no exceptions to this fact. If a man is listening attentively and paying undue attention to you even when you know you are spewing gibberish, it is obvious he is crushing on you. While you are discussing, take note of certain things. These include him leaning close to you while you talk and trying to appear broader or larger than he really is. The latter is an “Alpha” male dominance trait which is intended to make him appear strong and protective of you. On the other hand, if he appears to be constantly fidgeting and shifting his weight like he can’t wait to be free of the discussion, he probably doesn’t have a crush on you.

Looks deep into his eyes
Like the saying goes that the eyes hold a million words, same goes for feelings. One of the surest and easiest ways of knowing if a man is crushing on you is to look deep into his eyes. Of course, this cannot be determined just once but a man trying to make repeated eye contact with you is probably crushing on you. While making those attempts, the shy ones may quickly look away as they cannot sustain long gazes with their crush, but this in no way removes the fact that they are crushing on you.

He changes his behaviour around you
If his attitude and behaviour changes the moment you are around, look no further as it is seemingly evident he is crushing on you. However, it is important to note that every man has his own unique method of conveying messages and going about things, this in no way plays down the fact that most guys would change their attitudes around the woman they like. It is however important for the ladies to determine if the attitude or behaviour not shown is a positive or negative one as this would be important if you are considering a serious relationship.

He acts nice around your friends
A guy interested in you would definitely want to create a good impression in front of your friends. So,you can know how much he feels for you by taking note of how he acts and relates with your friends. It is a fact that we men know that the best way to get across to the girl we are crushing on is to go through her close friends. If your friends are impressed with his attitude, then you should know he’s interested in you.

The unmistakable smile
Well, if I’m smiling at a girl a lot, it probably means I’m crushing on her or how else do you explain a guy with a continually broadened face which might cause jaw pains? A guy crushing on you would smile a lot especially when you look in his direction while giving you unlimited time and attention.

He can’t get enough of you
This sign is unmistakable as a guy would continually try all within his power to spend every minute of every hour of every day with his crush. This is so because he can’t seem to sleep without thinking of you and you can pretty much know this by the way he acts around you.

It is my belief that the signs highlighted would be discerning enough for every girl to know if that friend is crushing on her. However, what if you find out you he is crushing but you don’t feel the same way?

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Why Are You With Your Partner?

We all get into relationships and marriages for different  reasons. There are people who believe in love and there are those who don't.

Some get into it due to family/societal pressure. Some to solve a pressing or long- lasting need,
some out of pity or guilt, some for financial benefits.

I pondered on all these yesterday and thought to bring it here.
Whether you are dating or married, come clean. Why are you with the man or woman you are with
right now? Feel free to go anonymous with your response.

Please note that the worst thing you can do to YOU is lie to yourself. You know most times the real truth lies in our deepest memory and no matter how hard we try to supress it, it keeps
lingering in our head and our conscience.

More often than not it even affects the way we treat our partner.
Most times talking about it and openly admitting it helps get a better perspective on what you have
gotten yourself into and could also bring a solution on how to handle your situation better if you are
not currently doing that. Am I making sense?

I kinda get the feeling I've started rambling. I hope you guys get the gist sha.... I'm giving you an opportunity to be honest with yourself. Or maybe you've never really thought about it.

Sometimes we live our life on auto pilot mode-even some of the most important decisions in our lives kinda get shoved into auto pilot mode.

So let's hear it. Abeg if you are going to come here and lie then don't bother droping any comment
that's why I said you can go anonymous so no one but you will know it's you. I'm not saying you
should go and confess to your partner oh.....just talk true to ya sef

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Dating Tips 8 ways to improve your love life

Sometimes, being single for so long may make you think that there's something wrong with you or that you're unloveable.

Both of these may be untrue, but it could also be that you're doing something wrong, or you're stuck in your comfort zone.

If you want to get out there and meet someone so you can start dating again, then you need to check out these 8 ways to improve your love life:

1. Focus on first impressions: First dates can be overwhelming, so streamline your focus into making the first few moments count. It takes only 12 minutes for you to decide if you are interested in the other person. To make a stellar first impression, make eye contact, smile, and focus on what he/she saying. And don't forget to check in with your self, too. You might be so focused on making a flawless first impression that you forget to ask yourself if you're even into the person.
2. Avoid over-sharing: Verbal diarrhoea happens. It happens more frequently when you are superexcited. But one way to kill a first date is to admit how long you spent stalking him on social networking sites, or accidentally tell him that he reminds you of your 'ex'. Oops! Have a censor in your brain, and learn to filter your thoughts, if you'd like to avoid these awkward boo-boos on a first date.
3. Listen how you speak: Making eye contact aside, listen to how you speak to each other. It is more than just what you are saying -it is how you say it. One study showed that when men talk to a woman they find attractive, they tend to vary their vocal pitch from high to low tones (almost in a sing-song fashion).
4. Let your friends play cupid: No one knows you quite like your besties do, so let them set you up with someone that they can vouch for. It is better for single people to meet through friends because there is familiarity and comfort that goes with that. A friend setting you up means the guy/girl is vetted. Let them play cupid, but make it clear that the way the date pans out is not a reflection on your friend, or you, or the person that you meet. Sometimes, chemistry is evident, and sometimes it isn't. And while getting your friends' opinions on the new date is essential, know that if you ask too soon, it could colour your own feelings about the potential match.
5. Don't play it cool: We have all heard that guys love the chase, but according to research, that's not true. In reality, men are more attracted to responsive women, and those who are kind and warm straight from the beginning. That doesn't mean being over-thetop eager and ever-ready-to-please, but it is fine to respond to that text in a timely manner, or tell him how much fun you are having. Being kind is definitely a turn on, so forget what you've been told about pretending to be evasive.
6. Not into him, move on: Dating someone you aren't into is a total waste of time, energy and mind space. Be realistic with yourself: Are you embarrassed to call him your boyfriend? Has he met your friends? Would you rather be watching a television romcom than making small talk with him? Are you only with him for fear of being single? If the answer to all these questions is a yes, then you need to peace out of this relationship and find a new date. And while we don't recommend you go on a dating marathon, it's often important to get out there -especially if you feel like you're stuck in a limbo. Don't give up. Your next amazing date might be right around the corner.
7. Date your friend: How often do you think to yourself, 'he's cute, but he'd rather be a friend' and quickly zone him out? But your friends can sometimes make the best dates. We'd, in fact, go a step ahead to say, think of dating your already existing friends, or friends of friends. Someone you are already friends with is likely to have similar values, and know your background. Plus, friendship is the foundation for any relationship, so having that bond established is half the road driven. Think about it.
8. Explore the unexplored: You never know where you are going to meet the next person you date, so if you are only looking in one spot (like that bar where you love to hangout with your buddies), then you are missing out on several potential partners. Plenty of couples have met at a market, movie hall, or even while sitting across at a library. Love can crop up anywhere, so get out there and keep your eyes, ears and heart open.

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Moment of Truth-Couples tell each other how many people they've slept with [VIDEO]

Sure, you probably already know your boyfriend/girlfriend isn't a virgin, but have you ever wondered how many people they've been with before you?

Worst still, have you ever asked? What was their reaction?

Elite Daily brought some couples together and asked them that very uncomfortable question: 'How many people have you slept with?'

As expected, the participants were surprised by the question, and each couple reacted differently.

Some were quite open about it, and they all had different experience. But some people just didn't even want to know.

Watch the video below:

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Ladies Only - 5 simple sex tips you need to know (18+)

How do you get the best out of making love with your partner?

A lot of ladies complain about lack of sexual satisfaction in their relationship, and most times, the man is blamed for this.

The truth is, you as a woman have a role to play where optimum enjoyment is concerned.
Below are five simple sex tips you need to know to improve your sexual experience.

1. Be creative: Don't just be a follower, lead the way and introduce a changing pattern so that both of you can create a new kind of sexual
loving. As a woman, you can find new ways of doing things, which will fit your partner's new mood and will help to build his self-esteem rather than erode it.

2. Avoid criticism: Don't become critical or afraid or because your partner takes long to get an erection. Always reassure him that everything
is normal. With skilful, manual and oral caresses, you can overcome this. But whatever you do, don't feel rejected. Don't think that because he can't get an erection rapidly, he's no longer attracted to you.

3. Make foreplay last longer: prolonged foreplay may be necessary for arousal – with you
taking the lead. So be creative and make it last as long as possible.

4. Don't worry: Don't be bothered if he doesn't ejaculate but seems sexually satisfied. When your partner cannot attain a second erection within a short time, don't think this is the first
sign of impotence.

5. Be more active: Play a major role. Try out new sexual positions that let you control the pace, and take the pressure off your partner to perform

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How To Be A Good Kisser - Omalicha Nwa

Are you guys surprised by this topic? Why? No be all of una sabi kiss na.......it's nothing to be embarrassed about some people are just better
at kissing than others just as some are better in bed than others. I have met a few ladies who say they can't marry a bad kisser. They say
everything starts from 'the kiss'. By his kiss you can tell how he will be in the sack. I guess the same thing applies to the ladies.

Kissing ignites passion, it promotes intimacy, it speaks a thousand things that you have on your mind but can't seem to get into words.

There are sloppy kissers- those who drool and spit all over your face while kissing....nyamah, there are also the biters- dem go nearly chop your lips commot while trying to nibble on them. Then there are the ones that all they want to do is just shove their tongue down your throat, they literally try to swallow your mouth.....Hian!! All on top kiss. While there are those who just don't like kissing at all.

If you fall in the category of a bad kisser (go on, admit it- at least to yourself even if you won't tell us here) I came across some tips on tweeking your kissing skills to top notch....hehehehe. Here's what I found on teensnote.com:

Before going straight to the point of this article, you have to remember you can not just run into someone and start kissing them.
Well unless they have been your partner for a long time. You have to initiate a kiss. You can do this with eye contact, lip bitting, and glancing at the other person’s lips in a sexy way.

Now after giving them hints and them noticing you want a kiss, then you can go ahead with the below tips on how to kiss!

1. As a guy, lean in for the kiss; go for the lower lips because its sweeter now lock your upper lips and lower lips with her lower lips or lock both of your lips with her lips in between. Let it feel like you are about to suck on those lips As a girl, if you made the first move, grab whatever lips you love and then lock them also. Now notice when he locks both of his lips against yours and you lock both of yours against his, it’ll feel like you’re in a different world! Now its time to get intimate.

2. Play around with your tongue. This is optional as not everyone is into this. How do you know if you he/she is into this? Run the tip of your tongue with your partner lips, if he/she responds, then she’s into it. If they close their lips as if they don’t want your tongue in them, then go ahead and try other
methods below!

3. Use your hands! They are there for a purpose. As a guy, grab that booty, as a girl you can wrap your hands around his neck or place both palms on his face (be discrete because some people don’t like when you touch their face). Look at the picture below

Pointers:
Don’t go from 0 to 100 real quick. You want to go slowly and intimately. Don’t rush!

Always compliment the person you’re kissing before even starting. Make them feel flattered after the date. Touch them, hold hands, do whatever to feel comfortable. Look them in the eyes..deep like you’re looking at a box of pizza you’re about to eat.

Lean in for the kiss… slowly slowly grab a lip from your partner that you will definitely play with in between your own lips..After like 2-3 seconds, pause…take your lips away not too far way just a couple inches, and then continue.. let them feel like you’re into it. Avoid Smacking sounds. They can be extremely awkward!. To lessen the noise, try slowing down and relaxing your lips.

If this is going to be your first kiss, be prepared for either disappointment or compliment. It is normal for first kisses to be awkward.. you will definitely learn to be a better kisser with practice.

As a guy, feel free to run your hands through your partners hair. Girls love this!! You don’t have to take the lead if you don’t want to. Do whatever makes you comfortable, and if that means letting your partner lead, that’s totally fine.
Go out there and enjoy exercising your lips.

My own pointer- A good breathe won't go amiss in making the kissing more enjoyable and even longer. Imagine kissing someone who has bad breathe.....grossssssss! Now let's talk about early morning kissing. Who's into it and who's not? Some people are totally
grossed out by their partner's morning breathe they can only manage an early morning peck.
One tip- get them to brush their teeth last thing at night and you should do the same. Sipping on some water right after you wake up
also helps. But then you know sometimes you love a person so much you couldn't give a rats
ass if their mouth smelled like a LAWMA truck. Who can relate?

So now tell us, are you a good kisser or a bad kisser. Some people probably don't know as their partners have never mentioned it. Well
you should ask them and try not to take offence if you get a negative response. You should rather focus on improving your kissing skills.

On a side note. Don't you just love that Usher's song 'Good kisser'. Absolutely love it. I have it on repeat in my car right now. If you haven't seen the video, check it out in my music box.

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Love and Dating-How to keep your relationship healthy and happy

                   

Every relationship comes with its own share of trials and tribulations, but it is your duty to keep afloat and steady regardless of every storm.

As you may already know, there is no perfect relationship, but it's important that yours is peaceful for the sake of your happiness.

So how do you keep your relationship healthy and happy? Lifehack has these tips for you:

1. Communicate openly: Research shows that communication style is more important than commitment levels, personality traits or stress in predicting which couples will stay happy. Healthy couples don't avoid conflict, but they do know how to keep the lines of communication open. Happy couples know that the best conversations happen without the distraction of phones, tablets and laptops.
2. Don't forget the small things: Saying please and thank you shouldn't be reserved for the company. Manners are important – even with the person you've been with for 20 years. Extend the same respect to your spouse as you would to a visiting guest. Say please and thank you, make polite conversation and why not offer your partner a drink? A few manners and niceties will go a long way to maintaining a culture of mutual respect.
3. Exercise together: Studies show that couples who exercise together are not only healthier, but more satisfied with their marriage. Psychology Today cites several studies that report that the symptoms of physiological arousal (the type of high you get from exercise) mimic the effects of sexual and romantic arousal. If you work out together, you will feel sexy, and in love!
4. Go on vacation: A couple's retreat can be energizing for a relationship,  but so can travelling separately!  Many happy, healthy couples take their own short vacations, or have regular trips away with a social group. Being alone, meeting new friends, or enjoying adventures without your partner can be very empowering. Ultimately, you will return to your partner energized, enthusiastic- and more in love than ever.
5. Laugh: Laughter relaxes the whole body, boosts the immune system and releases endorphins. Laughter expert, Lesley Lyle, author of the book Laugh Your Way To Happiness, says that smiling and laughing will make you feel better -even if it is forced! So, even if you and your loved one are both having a hard day, try smiling and laughing for no reason at all. The physical act of laughing will make you happier and healthier.
6. Eat together: Families that eat together, stay together. The supper table is a place for couples and their family members to connect and to receive nourishment – both physical and spiritual. Eating healthy food together at a table will not only encourage good family nutrition, but provides a regular, sacred space for conversation and laughter.
7. Have sex every day: Having sex every day removes the anxiety that some couples feel when it comes time to 'perform'. In his book, How One Couple Turned Off the TV and Turned On Their Sex Lives for 101 Days (No Excuses!), author Douglas Brown claims that having sex every day not only reduced this tension, but brought him and his wife closer together, after 14 years of marriage. Plus, sex itself can lower blood pressure, improve sleep, reduce stress and even prevent prostate cancer! Couples who have sex every day, claim that it not only strengthens their relationship, but improves their health.
8. Switch roles once in a while: Boredom and routine can make a relationship stagnant. If hubby always drives, why not switch it up next week, so she can take the wheel? Or if she always cooks, why not suggest a few meals prepared by him? Switching roles will not only mix things up a little- it may make you appreciate things from your partner's perspective. It goes without saying that switching roles in the bedroom can spice up a relationship. If your partner usually initiates sex, maybe it's your turn!
9. Never go to bed angry (but do sleep on an argument): There is an old saying, 'never go to bed angry'. But is half-past midnight really the time to discuss a problem? If you have a disagreement in the evening, do not discuss things if you are both tired. Set a time to talk the following day, say goodnight, and sleep on it. Things will be much clearer in the morning.
10. Be tolerant of physical change: As your partner and you grow old together, you will both mature and change – and because you have grown so comfortable together, you may be quick to point out flaws in each other. But, if you want your happy relationship to last, you should never mention the the stretch marks, the beer belly or the bald spot! No matter how old and wrinkly you both get, the answer to "How do I look?" is always: "You look beautiful (and I love you)".

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Love and Dating-How to keep your relationship healthy and happy

Every relationship comes with its own share of trials and tribulations, but it is your duty to keep afloat and steady regardless of every storm.

As you may already know, there is no perfect relationship, but it's important that yours is peaceful for the sake of your happiness.

So how do you keep your relationship healthy and happy? Lifehack has these tips for you:

1. Communicate openly: Research shows that communication style is more important than commitment levels, personality traits or stress in predicting which couples will stay happy. Healthy couples don't avoid conflict, but they do know how to keep the lines of communication open. Happy couples know that the best conversations happen without the distraction of phones, tablets and laptops.
2. Don't forget the small things: Saying please and thank you shouldn't be reserved for the company. Manners are important – even with the person you've been with for 20 years. Extend the same respect to your spouse as you would to a visiting guest. Say please and thank you, make polite conversation and why not offer your partner a drink? A few manners and niceties will go a long way to maintaining a culture of mutual respect.
3. Exercise together: Studies show that couples who exercise together are not only healthier, but more satisfied with their marriage. Psychology Today cites several studies that report that the symptoms of physiological arousal (the type of high you get from exercise) mimic the effects of sexual and romantic arousal. If you work out together, you will feel sexy, and in love!
4. Go on vacation: A couple's retreat can be energizing for a relationship,  but so can travelling separately!  Many happy, healthy couples take their own short vacations, or have regular trips away with a social group. Being alone, meeting new friends, or enjoying adventures without your partner can be very empowering. Ultimately, you will return to your partner energized, enthusiastic- and more in love than ever.
5. Laugh: Laughter relaxes the whole body, boosts the immune system and releases endorphins. Laughter expert, Lesley Lyle, author of the book Laugh Your Way To Happiness, says that smiling and laughing will make you feel better -even if it is forced! So, even if you and your loved one are both having a hard day, try smiling and laughing for no reason at all. The physical act of laughing will make you happier and healthier.
6. Eat together: Families that eat together, stay together. The supper table is a place for couples and their family members to connect and to receive nourishment – both physical and spiritual. Eating healthy food together at a table will not only encourage good family nutrition, but provides a regular, sacred space for conversation and laughter.
7. Have sex every day: Having sex every day removes the anxiety that some couples feel when it comes time to 'perform'. In his book, How One Couple Turned Off the TV and Turned On Their Sex Lives for 101 Days (No Excuses!), author Douglas Brown claims that having sex every day not only reduced this tension, but brought him and his wife closer together, after 14 years of marriage. Plus, sex itself can lower blood pressure, improve sleep, reduce stress and even prevent prostate cancer! Couples who have sex every day, claim that it not only strengthens their relationship, but improves their health.
8. Switch roles once in a while: Boredom and routine can make a relationship stagnant. If hubby always drives, why not switch it up next week, so she can take the wheel? Or if she always cooks, why not suggest a few meals prepared by him? Switching roles will not only mix things up a little- it may make you appreciate things from your partner's perspective. It goes without saying that switching roles in the bedroom can spice up a relationship. If your partner usually initiates sex, maybe it's your turn!
9. Never go to bed angry (but do sleep on an argument): There is an old saying, 'never go to bed angry'. But is half-past midnight really the time to discuss a problem? If you have a disagreement in the evening, do not discuss things if you are both tired. Set a time to talk the following day, say goodnight, and sleep on it. Things will be much clearer in the morning.
10. Be tolerant of physical change: As your partner and you grow old together, you will both mature and change – and because you have grown so comfortable together, you may be quick to point out flaws in each other. But, if you want your happy relationship to last, you should never mention the the stretch marks, the beer belly or the bald spot! No matter how old and wrinkly you both get, the answer to "How do I look?" is always: "You look beautiful (and I love you)".

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